Updated: Nov 21, 2020
Most times when I’m asked this question, I take full advantage! I use the opportunity to say things that I may have forgotten to mention initially or in some cases, never planned to mention at all. Has this ever happened to you? I’m willing to bet that it has. I’m also willing to bet that there have been times where you completely passed on an opportunity to speak your truth only to regret it later. Sometimes we’re lucky enough to get a second chance but other times we’re not and it’s those moments that often haunt us for the rest of our lives.
Let’s take it a step further, how did your inability to speak up not only affect you but those around you? Did you miss a chance to apologize to a good friend which in turn left the relationship severed? Maybe it was simply not raising your hand in class to ask a question and missing that one question on the test because of it.
I’ve learned that saying what you mean and meaning what you say 100% of the time is one of life’s golden rules. Too many times I’ve shied back from using my voice and this would likely always lead to muddy waters and uncomfortable situations. I’m SO over that lifestyle! It’s a crappy way to live and quite honestly, I’m just tryna live my best life while my time is still ticking on this side of heaven. This brings me to my next point…
Yesterday, I received a big, orange 8 X 11 envelope from my attorney’s office and ya’ll I was too hype! Funny thing is, for a second I was a little nervous as it had somehow gotten thrown away with the junk mail by my 4yr old daughter Nola. Gotta love the kids!
I had been waiting for this particular envelope to come in the mail for about two weeks at this point. After talking to my attorney several times, it finally arrived. Before you all get too excited, no, it’s not a check at least not in the literal sense. As you can see from the picture below, it was a copy of our Will.
My husband and I originally created our will about 8yrs ago. At the time we were newlyweds with just our oldest daughter, Jade who I often refer to as J. Check out the full story on my Modern Mom Fix YouTube Channel. We were 20 and 21 at the time and were "adulting" the best we knew how. Our main reason for getting the Will was to make sure we had outlined who our daughter would live with should something happen to both of us.
3 Reasons to Create a Will
We all have to go someday.
Eliminate potential chaos and confusion during an already difficult time.
We didn’t have a ton of savings and were trying desperately not to kill each other after recently moving into our town home! Chile, marriage ain’t for the faint! Even still, it was super important to us to begin laying the groundwork of legacy for our family, and that we could agree on! The entire experience was so empowering and satisfying. To know that we’d have a say in our daughter’s future gave us a reassuring peace that we’ll take to the grave, literally.
Some of you may be wondering why I talk so candidly about death. Well, simply because it’s a part of life. In my own words, a Will is our opportunity to have the last word in our affairs even after we transition. As we know, passing on an opportunity such as this can have long-lasting permanent effects and can greatly impact the love ones we leave behind. Don’t take it lightly.
I recommend anyone looking to have a say in their matters after death to start looking into a Will TODAY. Things may change and you can always make revisions as we recently had to do but having SOMEthing in place is far better than NOTHING.
If your kids are old enough to understand, include them in on the conversation. J, our oldest daughter was very involved in this process and was able to share thoughts from her perspective. Understanding her preferences was super important to us and actually made things a little easier. Let’s normalize estate planning and position our families for legacy, wealth and peace of mind!
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